Stages of Emotional Pain - Part 3 - Adult Pain

This being part 3 of my articles on emotional pain, let me quickly restate the 3 stages to bring the reader up to mink lashes date.

Childhood pain-emotional wounding that happens from childhood experiences

Adolescent pain-emotional wounding that builds upon childhood pain, accruing additional pain through more life experiences

Adult pain-emotional wounding that is rooted in childhood and adolescent pain, and is carried throughout our adult life

Let me state here that all of our adult pain comes from some form of childhood pain that grew in adolescence and has now become a part of our emotional being as adults. Events and experiences from childhood caused us to respond in certain ways that in turn caused us to believe certain things to be true.

For example, a young 4-year-old girl comes out of her room, proud that she dressed herself, but having mix-matched her attire, her mother responds, not with confirming pride for her daughter's initiative or independence, but stating, "Oh, honey, you need to change. Let's go put that cute little white dress on. You look so pretty in it." Well, many wounds and false beliefs could come from this one example, but for just one, let me say that this little girl could have interpreted her mother saying, "You are not pretty." Now her mother did not say that, but what the little girl heard was, "I am not pretty the way I am. I have to change." Can you see how words can cause wounds, even when not intended to?

Obviously there are millions of ways wounding can occur in our lives as children, but these little lies like, "I'm not pretty," could be what drives a teenage girl to look for a guy who tells her she is pretty, no matter what she might have to do to get that out of him. It could also be what drives the same girl to become bulimic, be obsessed with the right clothes and makeup, or is driven to have every hair in place, even as an adult. She may turn into the woman who never sees herself as pretty no matter what her husband might say.

So what do we do with all this adult pain we have? It comes spilling out of our "pain tank" all the time. We can be so filled up and overflowing with so much pain that whenever someone happens to bump us, we lash our pain onto that person. But thank God, there is help.

Fountains of Life does prayer ministry over the phone and in our office that allows God's love to be poured in and the lies and pain released. If a person is willing to face the wounding and pain of their past we can help them find freedom in their future. Robert Hartzell is director of Fountains of Life a ministry of the Father's Love. We hold conferences all over the world and see restoration of relationship in all our events.

I has a Masters Degree in Christian Counseling. I am certified in Elijah House 1 & 2, by John Sanford. I spent years traveling with Jack Frost around the world being trained in Father's Love. I have training in Ed Smith's Theophostic Ministry and Arthur Burk's Ministering to the Spirit. Cyndi, Robert's wife, is also an Ordained Pastor. Se habla Espanol.

I do Christian Counseling from my office, through Skype and over the phone. Each method has proved very successful.