Top Ten Things to Avoid When You Are Feeling Negative

How does it feel when you are negative? Not good. For some people they become depressed while others become volatile. Any emotion or thought that makes you feel worse, rather than better, is essentially negative. The more you focus on the bad that surrounds you, the more bad stuff seems to seek you out! So how do you quickly pull out of this negative state? Below is a quick list of things to avoid.

Top ten mink lashes things to avoid when you are feeling negative:

Avoid other negative people: "Misery loves company" and the two of you will pull each other farther down the rabbit's hole. It is best to be alone if possible. This will actually allow you to get quickly back on track. Through self-training, you can get out of it in about two minutes!

Avoid helping other people: I might get a lot of flack for this one, but you really need to focus on your own needs when you are negative. When you are involved in an airplane incident they tell you to put on your own air mask first, then assist others. This applies to your daily life! When you try to help when you are negative it is not genuine. (For all you parents, this is when your little one looks up at you with their cute little face and you are irritated! Don't feel guilty- that makes it worse! Do an SOS- Stop, Observe and Start again.)

Avoid continuing what you are currently doing: Stop what you are doing- stop talking, stop thinking, stop moving, just STOP! Continuing on will fuel the fire and escalate the situation.

Avoid negative thoughts: Have you noticed when you think about how miserable you are, you continue to find even more reasons to justify your "miserableness". This goes back to rule #1 - misery loves company. All your negative thoughts will just draw even more.

Avoid judging others: This is so apparent to see when other people are negative. This horrible coping mechanism is supposed to make yourself feel better- "Oh, look at her, she looks so ridiculous!" When people insult or judge others it is because their own self-esteem is low or they are negative. The catch is, when you put others down you are ultimately effecting yourself as well. Never does it feel truly good to insult another person. Want proof? The next time you feel really positive, notice how you do not put others down.

Avoid putting yourself down: Often we sit in judgment on others, but usually we are hardest on ourselves. We doubt ourselves and get mad at all the stupid things we do. This also accomplishes nothing, though. All you do is sink yourself farther down.

Avoid lashing out at others: Not only will you bring them down, you will pull yourself farther down, making it even harder to get positive again. You will have regret and guilt, two major "pulls" towards the negative.

Avoid making any permanent decisions: Bringing up the topic of divorce, getting a tattoo, or buying a car are all bad things to do when you are negative. When negative you lack the clarity and the understanding needed to make such an important decision.

Avoid any mind altering states: Alcohol and drugs contribute to your confused state of mind. They might temporarily relieve your stress, but ultimately they bring more confusion in their wake, and possibly a set of regrets as well.

Avoid seeking refuge in negative activities: The thrill or excitement is a false and temporary "life high" and will further deteriorate your self-worth.

Hopefully avoiding these ten things will help get you back on track to feeling positive again.

Here's a suggestion- print out this list and put it up somewhere in your house. Then, when you start to feel that negative "tug" you can just do a quick review. Soon you will be seeing life clearly again. (Heck, you don't really have to do it..... it was just a suggestion!)

Jennifer Janelle Mix-Hickman

Unlock the Mystery. Discover the Truth.

Jennifer teaches fun and interactive seminars guiding others through the process of self-discovery. Ella Nova offers seminars and tools to help unlock the mystery of our personalities.

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